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Gale Minchew, PhD

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Tips on shifting perspective

Life is ever changing. As you grow from childhood into adulthood, you experience many transformations along the way. Some shifts come quite easily. Many are gratefully welcomed. But still other changes are met with confusion, disappointment, regret, anger, or despair. Unfortunately, the more you struggle against these changes, the more discomfort you feel in your life. But there is always hope. You can shift the way you view these changes by creating change of your own…a change in your perspective. And truly, when you shift perspective, the way you view a situation or experience, you can shift your entire world. Are you ready to get started?

Over the next couple of newsletters, we will explore several techniques you can use to accomplish the goal of shifting perspective. There is no single “right” way so begin by first freeing yourself of any limitations or expectations about the process. Affirm: I welcome in all of the changes meant for me in this moment and release my ego need to control the outcome of this experience. Okay, great! Now let’s try out the first technique…one of my favorites!

Thought Creation – This technique involves changing your thoughts in the very moment of experience. Rather than dwelling or worrying about a negative situation in your life, transform your thoughts into something positive. Perhaps someone was rude to you at the grocery store. Or maybe you were served with a legal summons. Perhaps you did poorly on a project for school or work. Maybe you had car trouble or missed an appointment. Whatever the case, what is done is done. It is important to acknowledge this so that you may move forward. Allow the experience to come into your mind. You can express your feelings about it, but then let those feelings go. Do not allow them to linger. When we allow negative emotions to linger, we create stress, anxiety, and depression within ourselves…so, let them go.

Now, take a few moments to think about the facts of the situation from an objective (or higher) perspective. This means: take your emotions and your ego out of it. For some people, this is challenging. But stubbornly holding onto negative energy only hurts one person: You. From a higher perspective, what did you learn from the situation? What did it teach you? Perhaps it taught you what you do not want in your life. Or, perhaps it showed you a new way of doing something. If you struggle with finding anything that you learned, anything of benefit, anything that may be good from the experience, allow your mind to help you create something positive out of your experience.

Remember, your mind and your thoughts have incredible power…use them to your advantage! Stay tuned for next month’s newsletter where we will explore more fabulous techniques for shifting perspective!

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The Sidewalk Ends Here…

May 11, 2011

I don’t remember any books from my childhood.  At least, that’s what I thought.  When I first tried to conger up memories of reading, I drew a complete blank.  Yes, I couldn’t think of one single book!  So, I decided to delve a little further into my mind and came up with the cute teddy bear board book my mom read to me as a toddler, Cinderella, and The Princess and the Pea.  I still have that little teddy bear book and will always cherish it.  But, can that really be all I remember reading as a child?  Pulling those memories from the frayed edges of my mind soon buried me under a wave of book covers and authors.  Oh!  What about the Sweet Valley High series by Francine Pascal?  I read that series incessantly during my teen years.  I remember spending so much money on those books…and it became a challenge…buying, reading, and arranging all those books on my shelf in chronological order.  Then, a little further back I remembered some required reading from middle school…Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret by Judy Blume and the life and writings of Edgar Allen Poe.  I admit, I didn’t care for Judy Blume, but I was fascinated with Edgar Allen Poe…The Raven, The Tell Tale Heart, The Masque of the Red Death, The Pit and the Pendulum, and so on.  But, I still wonder why they had Poe as required reading for a 13 year old!  It was probably my fascination with Poe that led to my interest in crime/suspense/mystery novels.  So, it was only logical that by high school, I had moved on to Dean Koontz, Stephen King, and Anne Rice. 

I continued to ponder the books I read as a child and found that with all the authors, titles, and genres flowing through my mind, I continuously returned to fourth grade.  It was a magical year, I suppose…a time for trading stickers with my friends, staying out of the clutches of boys chasing girls on the playground, and my first introduction to poetry.  Now, I admit I would have done almost anything to not go outside for recess, as you can imagine!  Quite coincidentally, my fourth grade teacher, Mrs. Joyce Sigler, had an exciting project for me and a friend in lieu of play time.  At recess, she would tape a large sheet of white paper on the wall and place the overhead projector in just the right spot for maximum size.  She would then place a transparency on the overhead glass, and my friend and I would carefully trace the letters and drawings onto the plain white paper.  That simple job made me feel important!  And, unbeknownst to me at the time, I learned about poetry and how to make that funny little lower case ‘a’.  I mean, who really writes an ‘a’ like that?  Ultimately, I ended up reading the entire book from which the transparencies were made.  What an exciting experience at such an impressionable time in my young life!

You may wonder what poetry could possibly fill a fourth grader with so much excitement.  This poetry was magical, complete with funny drawings…a book filled of stories such as Sarah Cynthia Sylvia Stout who would not take the garbage out, a crocodile who went to the dentist, and little Peggy Ann McKay who was so sick she could not go to school today!  Yes, Where the Sidewalk Ends by Shel Silverstein became my favorite book that year.  That year became one of my most memorable years in school and, by my estimation, served as a catalyst for my growing love of books.

I now share Mr. Silverstein’s books with my own children.  Not only Where the Sidewalk Ends, but A Light in the Attic, Falling Up, and The Giving Tree, as well.  Will my fourth grader have the same memories about reading these books as I have?  Probably not, but I hope to make an impression as great as that given to me all those years ago by one very special fourth grade teacher and Shel Silverstein!

*This entry first appeared as a guest post on basicallyamazingashley.com in May 2011